In recent years, the concept of neurodiversity has become a lot more recognised across education and workplaces, including the professional services industry, like law firms. Neurodiversity acknowledges that neurological differences (such as autism, ADHD, dyslexia, dyspraxia, and others) are natural variations of the human brain, rather than problems that need to be “fixed.” As October comes to a close, we are reflecting on ADHD Awareness month. This article explores how neurodiversity should be taken into consideration in various events in life, including divorce and separation.
It is recognised that a child who is neurodiverse may require careful consideration throughout many processes, including parents separating. However, less attention is given to how neurodiversity could affect the adults themselves during a divorce or relationship breakdown.
When professionals such as solicitors and mediators support clients through separation or divorce, the clients are often managing intense emotions, complex decisions, and significant life transitions. This time can be difficult for anyone, but can be particularly challenging for neurodivergent clients due to differences in communication, sensory processing, or executive functioning.
A neurodivergent adult might, for example:
- Struggle to process information during emotionally charged meetings.
- Need more structured communication (such as written follow-ups after discussions).
- Find traditional mediation or negotiation settings overwhelming.
- Require extra time to consider options before making decisions.
Recognising and adjusting for these needs is not about giving “special treatment” - it’s about providing equitable access to professional support.
These days, professionals are becoming increasingly aware of how to adapt their approach when working with children and adults who are neurodivergent during family breakdowns.
Neurodivergent parents going through divorce are not only coping with the emotional and logistical challenges of separation, but often doing so while navigating environments and expectations that are not designed for the way their brains process information. Without appropriate adjustments, this can lead to misunderstanding, increased stress, and even unfair outcomes in negotiations or legal proceedings.
The Family team at BPE have made it part of their policy to ask individuals during the onboarding process whether they have any needs such as neurodivergence or otherwise so that we can consider appropriate adjustments.
When professionals make the effort to check for needed adjustments, everyone benefits. Neurodivergent clients can engage in the process more effectively, make informed decisions, and feel heard and respected. Professionals can then work more efficiently and build stronger, trust-based relationships. Ultimately, this approach leads to fairer outcomes and a more humane experience for all parties involved.
Neurodiversity doesn’t end with childhood. It continues into adulthood and shapes how people think, feel, and interact. Recognising and accommodating this reality is not only compassionate, but a matter of equity and good practice for professionals.
By extending the same care and adaptability we show to children, we can ensure that all clients (neurodivergent or otherwise) are supported to navigate one of life’s most difficult transitions with dignity and understanding.
If this article resonates with you and you are looking for a legal professional that can help guide you through your divorce or separation, get in touch with BPE’s Family team by clicking here.
