As ADHD Awareness Month draws to a close, it’s a fitting time to reflect on the importance of recognising and supporting neurodiversity within families - not just in children, but in adults too. Awareness around ADHD, autism and other forms of neurodivergence has grown significantly in recent years, yet in the context of relationship breakdowns and divorce, the conversation often remains focused on children. This article explores why understanding and adjusting for neurodiverse adults is just as crucial, and how thoughtful legal support can make a meaningful difference.
In recent years, the concept of neurodiversity has gained greater recognition across education, workplaces, and professional services. Neurodiversity acknowledges that neurological differences – such as autism, ADHD, dyslexia, dyspraxia and other cognitive variations – are natural variations of the human brain rather than deficits to be “fixed.”
In the context of family breakdown, it is now widely accepted that a child who is not neurotypical will require careful consideration throughout the process. Yet one area that receives far less attention is how neurodiversity affects adults themselves during divorce or separation.
When professionals such as family solicitors, mediators, or financial advisors support clients through a separation, they are often managing intense emotions, complex decisions, and significant life changes. For neurodivergent clients, these challenges can be even more acute due to differences in communication, sensory processing, or executive functioning.
A neurodivergent adult might, for example:
- Struggle to process information quickly during emotionally charged meetings.
- Need more structured communication, such as written follow-ups after discussions.
- Find mediation or negotiation settings overwhelming due to sensory sensitivities or social dynamics.
- Require additional time to reflect before making decisions.
Recognising and adjusting for these needs is not about giving “special treatment” – it’s about providing equitable access to professional support.
Recognising Neurodiversity Beyond Childhood
Professionals are increasingly aware of how to adapt their approach when working with neurodivergent children during family breakdowns. For example, communication may be simplified, routines maintained, and transitions carefully managed to reduce distress.
However, the same principle should apply to neurodivergent adults. Parents with ADHD or autism who are going through divorce are not only coping with the emotional and logistical challenges of separation, but are also doing so while navigating systems and expectations that may not align with how their brains process information.
Without appropriate adjustments, this can lead to misunderstandings, increased stress, or even unfair outcomes in negotiations or legal proceedings. Recognising this ensures that everyone has a fair opportunity to participate meaningfully in the process.
For those seeking family law advice in Cheltenham or across Gloucestershire, understanding and empathy can make all the difference. A solicitor who recognises how neurodiversity influences communication and decision-making can help create an environment where clients feel supported and heard.
How BPE Solicitors Support Neurodiverse Clients
At BPE Solicitors LLP, our Family team actively considers the individual needs of every client. As part of our onboarding process, we ask whether you have any specific needs – such as neurodivergence, ADHD or autism – so that we can make any necessary adjustments from the outset.
Where professionals are able to make adjustments, everyone benefits. Neurodivergent clients are better able to engage in the process, make informed decisions, and feel respected. In turn, professionals can work more efficiently and build stronger, trust-based relationships. Ultimately, this leads to fairer outcomes and a more positive experience for all involved.
For individuals and families in Cheltenham and Gloucestershire who may be affected by neurodiversity, ADHD or autism during divorce or separation, BPE’s Family team is here to help. Our solicitors combine legal expertise with empathy and understanding, ensuring that every client receives clear, considered advice in an environment that recognises their unique needs.
Supporting Families with Understanding and Expertise
Neurodiversity doesn’t end with childhood – it continues into adulthood, shaping how people think, feel, and interact. Recognising and accommodating this reality in family law and divorce proceedings is not only compassionate, it’s essential to achieving fair outcomes.
At BPE Solicitors in Cheltenham, we understand that neurodiverse families face distinct challenges when relationships break down. Our team works with clients across Gloucestershire and beyond, offering practical legal advice that is sensitive to how neurodivergence can impact communication, parenting, and decision-making.
If you or someone you know is going through separation or divorce and would benefit from legal advice that understands neurodiversity, please get in touch with BPE’s Family team today by clicking here.
